Relationships don’t finish, they change (R.d.f.t.c.)

2024

Relationships don’t finish, they change — is a video installation presented at the Handwerker Gallery at Ithaca College in 2024. The work addresses first-time memories of big feelings and consists of a collection of 16 short videos—10 of which are musical—looped consecutively within a single gallery space. The videos were installed alongside curtains and props used in the works themselves, creating a layered environment that extended the imagery into the room.

The individual video titles include: Death-bo-beath; Unsatisfied; I Got My Cult; Neon Purple Glow; Everything Has Already Happened; Sub Song; What’s Special About You?; Beautiful New World; Species Family; No presh it’s chill, bummer my bad; The Last Mating Call; Slow Love; Seaweed Dance; It’s You I Like; and Nolan & Zander.

Objects and paintings were created in response to the videos, referencing tactile memories such as drawing with crayon on wooden furniture, and agreeing to believe in magical suggestions like Disney, Santa and safety.  

Written, directed and produced by Kyla Kegler 

Cinematographer: Tristan Gellatly

Music producer / instrumental composition: Derick Evans

Production support: Carl Lee, Lauren Pullano, Lisa Brown Carosa, Christina Buscarino

Performers: Alex Kerr, Bello Bello, Casey Sampson, Charlie Finan, Danny Gray, Devin Finan, Eve Johnstone, Gabriella Victoria, Jarrett Szymanski, Kayleah Aldrich, Lauren Lerner, Lydia Kegler, Meghan Arnold, Nicolee Jimenez, Nolan Barry, Suzanna Vaupen, TD, Ülgen Kılıç, Zach Kushner, Zander Raymond

Song Book designed and printed by Robert Rusch

Remember when you were the baby whale and I was the whale mother

A whole new Beautiful new world

Slow Love

Remember when we were orphans lost in the woods

I feel most powerful riding a horse fast in the forest

Something must go on forever but nothing can go on forever

Remember when you were the baby whale and I was the whale and I was the whale mother

Remember when you told me Santa wasn’t real

Remember when we were orphans lost in the woods with trees

Oversized T shirt tucked into jeans